I Hate Nobody and Nothing

When reading books about psychology or self-improvement, we often encounter topics about hatred. It could be something that triggers our trauma, anything else that simply can annoy us, or even somebody around us. Some of us can easily write a long list of who or what they hate; others (including me) find it rather difficult to write even one thing.

In the middle of reading a book by Briana Weist, "101 Essays that will Change The Way You Think," in the essay no. 37 called How To Detox Your Thoughts, readers are asked to write what they hate about others, and I was surprised that I couldn't even write one. 

2 days ago, I installed a new boxing sack, and I casually shared a status of who I should stick on it to make me punch it eagerly. I couldn't think of anybody, some of my friends replied. Someone mentioned her neighbor and explained why; some of them mentioned politician names that I could agree that many people may hate, as well.

The fact that I couldn't think of anyone or anything in those two happenings is still surprising and eye-opening. I have no clear idea of when I set my mind that hating someone is a useless energy-consuming thing I need to avoid, that I see something or someone with no attachment anymore. I see anything that is not suitable, I avoid. I don't wanna waste any energy on it.

For me, hating on things requires many resources of ours; taking our energy and time, even some space in our mind, which I don't want to. I believe anything we don't like about people that we love can be communicated; if it can't be, then for some reason we can accept it as it is and tolerate it to the level where we can go with it peacefully, not disturbing our mental state.

The reason why I decided to write this here is to save a written stage of emotional levelling of how and why I've been living so peacefully, with almost zero complaints in anything surround me. Something and someone may hurt me, but the fact that I don't allow them to ruin me says a lot how my world has become more tranquil without anything burning inside and outside.